Being a land of ceremony and propriety, China has advocated ceremony and etiquette civilization since ancient times. As a member of the big family of Chinese, Tibetan who lives at the source of rivers and mountains is an ethnic group which stresses ceremony and etiquette.
Presenting Khadas, one of the most practised etiquette is to express honesty, loyalty and sincerity. Khadas are usually offered on the occasions of greetings to the guests, a wedding ceremony, baby-born, birthday, moving to a new house, festivals, funerals, visiting seniors, pilgrimages and farewells. Khada is usually made of raw silk, and is woven loosely.
A Khada represents different meanings on different occasions. To present khadas in greeting guests means sincerely and warmly welcome. Tibetan presents Khadas to each other to celebrate a happy festival and life. In wedding ceremony, presenting khadas means blessing the new married couples live happily together forever. To present khadas in sending one off means wishing a safe journey. In funeral ceremony, presenting khadas means mourning the died person and consoling the family members.
Generally speaking, people who present khada should hold it with both hands,, and rise high as one’s shoulder then stretch hands evenly, and bow to present it to the receiver. At this moment, khada is held as high as one’s head, which means a respect and paramount blessings, wish all the best to who receives it. The receiver, in a polite gesture, accepts it with both hands holding evenly.
Tibetan greatly values presenting gifts that must be presented on the occasions of festivals or ceremonies. The receivers often send gifts in return for the presentation, which are usually more than given ones in numbers. Otherwise, it is regarded as a breach of etiquette.
Tibetan values most about the etiquette between the senior and the junior. Respecting the elderly and caring for the young is a valuable tradition of Tibetan since ancient time.
No matter in the family or on any social occasion, one should strictly follow the rule of senior priority that the senior walks first, be seated first and in a high seat, talks first, eats and drinks first.
The junior must completely follow the senior’s words. As an ancient proverb goes that the senior’s teaching is more valuable than gold.
It is necessary for the junior to talk in a respect tongue with the senior, and can’t call their names directly. When a senior is going to talk to a junior, in no where, the junior shouldn’t pretend to avoid it but reply to one patiently, can not even lie.
As the senior come to one’s family, all family members need to stand on till the senior is seated.
Tibetan are quite hospitable even a stranger who have required can be treated with tea, drinks and Zanba. A host will walk out to greet guests, with a bow and both hands at the same level, to welcome when guests arrive. And the host keeps standing by till they get into the house. Family members stand up to wait all the guests seat as men at left and women right. The host will take out the finest beverage cup, and fill it with tea or drink. Guests are not allowed to hold up the cups and drink right way, but should dip the ring finger into the drink and flick it up three times before drinking.
As a guest presents gifts to a host, he or she receives them politely with both hands.
Presentation of gifts is quite particular, too. Family members stand up as guests are leaving. Gifts presented by a host are usually not taken away by guests.
Seeing off a guest with different etiquettes has several ways, one day of accompanying is the top ediquette. The second is seeing off to out of sights. The third is sending guests to gate or outside of the gate.
Etiquettes in Meeting with Guests
To seriously take an oath is a tradition of Tibetan. Swear has two kinds, one is to swear by words, another one is to swear by hands. To take an oath by words is to make oath orally and to take an oath by hands it to make the oath by using gestures or objects. In Tibet, people usually swear when they make friends, demonstrate the innocence, decide to keep secret, meditate disputes and confide in a belief. Oral oath generally is that “Gong jue song” means the swear is made under the fame of Triratna.
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I'm interested in the 14 day trip from Lhasa to Nepal trip. In in January or February would be great. how much would that be? is there space?
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Greetings from Nancy at Budget Tibet Tour, thanks for visiting our website and sending your inquiry. Sorry we do not have any group tour in Jan or Feb to Kailash as there will be heavy snow and the road will be blocked, and also the area would be closed, and no one do the business there, no hotel, no restaurants there. So from Nov to March we would not send any groups there.
If you would like to do this tour, you must plan it from April to Oct. and at present we have the group tour in next 6th May and 29th May, and we will have more available date in future. if you are interested in joining in this, please kindly let me know. Best regards.
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